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Hi, new to this site and so glad I'm not alone but prefer to remain anonymous. I've silently suffered for years - I had no idea this was so common.
Just wondering, I always find music in public toilets improves chance of being able to go but assume licensing costs put most providers off. Is there / has there ever been any attempt to get licensing bodies to wave the fees for public conveniences? Or are there any charities that contribute to installing music systems?
I agree, the dead silence is so unnatural, so background sounds like music are helpful and just more natural.
I dont know of any attempt to get licensing authorities to waive the license fee; I honestly reckon it would not get off the ground. Then the landlord would have to put a music system in as well.
Some guys find it helpful to use an iPod. Have you tried that?
Or use your phone and listen to a recorded track on it.
BTW about being anonymous; that's OK. But remember: say you are John; there are tens of thousands of Johns out there. I am Andrew: no-one can pin me down because I use my name. The other thing is that this site is actually very boring to people who do not have paruresis. So just think about it; start the journey towards taking control away from your AP.
I would like to think that it was for our benefit, but I believe it is used so that it is so annoying, that it deters guys from hanging around the toilet. This was certainly the case in some shopping centres and railway stations.
But I do find it does help because it disguises other noises and means that I might even get a flow started before someone comes in. If I get the flow started I might even finish but usually it slows to a trickle.
