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Hi - I've suffered from the problem almost 30 years to the day - in fact since I was nine. I've also never told anyone of this problem - as I can normally cope, due to the fact that over the years - I can use certain toilets without any time pressures present.
Has anybody identified a trigger for their paruresis - I know exactly how and why my symptoms developed. Does anybody else think that they have a trigger that they may have forgotten?
Also, has anybody any tips for coping with a hospital stay? I have to have a minor op soon that may necessitate a short stay in hospital. After each of my children I discharged myself instantly to get away from the pressurised environment.
Finally, does the catheter method hurt - I had a catheter took out once after a caesarian and it hurt like hell!
Triggers: we know of: 1. badly handled transfer from domestic toileting to public toileting 2. inappropriate toilet training 3. pre-pubertal trauma to do with genitals or toileting 4. bullying in school toilets
Hospital stay: email us your address and we can send you the UKPT brochure: mention to your consultant that you get urinary retention, show them the brochure, and state your needs: a woman has already done this successfuly.
Catheters should not hurt: may be iuncomfortable. Note the disposable catheters are nothing like hospital in-dwelling catheters!
The only discomfort I've experienced using catheters is a mild stinging (not every time and lasts only a few seconds). Not a problem. The best catheters for me are Speedicath Compact which are very small to carry around and the easiest I have found to use.