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Hello everyone, my name is Martin; I am 37 years old and have suffered from AP for 19 years. I am currently seeing a psychiatrist in aiding me with resolving my problem. It wasn’t until I saw someone with the same problem as me on the tv programme embarrassing bodies that I thought I would just have to put up with this condition.
I consulted my doctor who referred me to a physiatrist who has given me a new way of looking at the problem (I must say that telling someone else has been like a huge weight off my shoulders).
I would like to attend the workshop in Manchester but obviously due to the distance and family commitments - it’s not really practical for me to attend. I have purchased the book Shy Bladder Syndrome which goes into the process of de-sensitising the experience of using public restrooms utilising gradual exposure techniques with the aid of other sufferers.
I would like to hear if anyone in the Aberdeen area has this condition and would be interested in trying to rectify their difficulties using public conveniences.
I do not know whether anyone has contacted you direct; if no-one has, do not be disheartened. Most guys prefer to do this only with someone that they have met on a workshop; blind dates of this sort are not easy.
You say that attending a workshop in London or Manchester is not practical, due to distance and family commitments. As far as distance is concerned, our record is one man who flew in from South Africa for the workshop. Others have come from Sweden, Denmark, Hungary, Belgium, Holland, France, and Ireland. So it really is not the distance that matters, but how much it matters to you to get rid of this problem.
As for family commitments, that is possibly a blocker; but the family would have to manage if you went to hospital for an op; and this is just as important, both to you, and to them. I assume the condition is having some effect on your family in terms of restrictions it imposes on you.
