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Post-workshop feedback: Do you really want to spend the rest of your life feeling like you do?
Posted by Anon on 18/10/2008, 12:43 pm Message modified by board administrator 18/10/2008, 1:59 pm
This is to all the men and women out there who have just had enough of their problem.....
I am a 27 year old female and this problem with urinating has been going on since I was about 16yrs. It was getting to the point it made me so unhappy. I am not going into huge detail but lets just say I am still on two types of medication, beta blockers and antidepressants to reduce the anxiety - and I finished a session of CBT sessions working on negative thinking i.e "oh my god the person in the next cubicle will hear that I am not going"....you catch my drift...
Anyway the best help I could have got was when I went to the UKPT workshop. I would do anything to fix this probelm so when my CB therapist did some research on the net she came across this website and reccommended me to take a look and see that, 1. I am not alone, and 2. there is actually help out there specifically for this phobia.
I didn't even hesitate - I went straight for it. Anything is better than nothing. I didn't know what to expect but anything is better than living the rest of my life like this.... So I enrolled. Andrew was replying to my emails so efficiently I thought - wow this is for real, so efficient means it must be good.
Then came the day....I got nervous checking in - I was about to meet X amount of people with the same problem. It was really nerve wrecking the first 15 mins just meeting everyone - but oh my god how that was the last time I even felt like that. The team leaders make you feel at ease straight away. And guess what EVERYONE THERE WAS ABSOLUTELY NORMAL. All ages of people, with some amazing stories and experiences, jobs and families. They are just suffering from this god awful phobia - like 4 million other people are in the UK.
The weekend completely normalised the whole thing. So what, it's only a pee, you can't go, so what, you really think the person standing next to you cares or EVEN NOTICES? Doubt it very very very much. Its only because you are aware of it - no one else is. Since then I have had such a change to my whole outlook on this phobia - yes there have been times where I have had a few 'misfires' but SO WHAT I am much better than I have ever been and thats the way I hope you will all feel some day too.
I wouldn't have felt like this had I not gone on the course - so please please go for it. Don't be embarassed - everyone there is in the same situation.
Go for it
If anyone wants to ask me any questions please do - I would love to help anyone
Sharon
Re: Post-workshop feedback: Do you really want to spend the rest of your life feeling like you do?
Well done, sounds really good. I'm glad the workshop had such a positive effect on you. I am going to the workshop next week and although I am a little nervous about it, I am hoping that it will have a similar effct for me too!
Robin
Re: Post-workshop feedback: Do you really want to spend the rest of your life feeling like you do?