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It has been over a year since I completed my second workshop and I found that the lessons I learned in the beginners and follow up weekend sessions have had a huge impact on my shy bladder challenges. I feel much more relaxed about where I am going to pee when I go out and much less time now planning or thinking about it.
I am using the training techniques I learnt in the courses and continue to keep up my practice by going into the more difficult situations for me eg going to pee at the theatre with someone I know or going in a badly designed toilet area where there is a lack of privacy.
There have been the occasional "misfires" and I have treated these as part of the learning experience and got back on my bike again as it were as soon as possible. with ideas like "I can take as long as I want to and this belongs to me as long as I need it" have really helped me relax and got me into the right frame of mind.
Before I found out about UKPT I thought a shy bladder was just something I had to live with(and had done so for more than 30 years) and through your education and practical skills teaching, I have learnt how to change my attitude and thinking about the issue and by continuing practice make a real difference to my life.
Great to hear about your steady progress; and hear of your persistance in practicing, and your positive attitude. It is obviously working. A good example for those following
What I want to say here, is what a difference the workshops made to me. It is a totally safe and empathetic environment where there is a caring understanding of what each person has been and is going through. How it gave me the practical tools and taught me the thinking skills to carry with me in to my own day to day situation.
If it is at all possible to attend the workshops then it is really worth the effort. From my observation at the two workshops I attended everyone comes away with a new perspective on their situation, as well as an action plan and a positive feeling of knowing you are not alone.