Posted by Pete Bo on 28/1/2013, 7:35 pm, in reply to "Re: Beginners Workshop - 9 years on"

Hi Robert, Funnily enough, I think having a son has helped in some ways. Particularly when they're young, kids can be quite full on. One thing that really didn't help my AP was having plenty of time to think about it. When out, having to stop them running off, preventing them knocking everything off the shelves in the shops, persuading them to only play on the Thomas ride for a short time, not losing the two thousand items of "stuff" that have to be carried, there's not much brain capacity to left to think about whether I'll be able to pee or not! "It's my business and who cares" is the right attitude. It turns out they don't actually care - but it took a few years for me to go from "who cares?" (which kind of implies I think they might) to actually not thinking about whether anyone cares because I genuinely don't think they do. And if they do, then that's their problem. Kids accept you for who you are. You'll never be a weirdo to them (ok, maybe when they hit the teenage years) - and that kind of acceptance is amazing. I have a new thought if I struggle at the urinal: "I've got a wife and kids who accept me whatever, so why am I worried about the random guys in here with me?". Cheers, Pete.

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