Posted by Colin on 24/11/2010, 12:57 pm, in reply to "New to the site"

Hi Mark Here are some thoughts which might just help you: Pubs, clubs etc - It is perfectly OK to use cubicles for urination. Lots of blokes do it. Those with a "disabled" sign on the door are for use by everyone, and are usually more spacious and have full-length doors for extra privacy, so use them. Flying - peeing on a plane is difficult for most people. something to do with the pressurisation. The motion of the plane also makes it difficult to do standing up (same on trains) so squat and try to relax. All cubicles, including planes - NO-one knows what you are doing in there. You could be dumping, peeing, being sick, changing your pants. Whatever. It is your space and you can take as long as you like to use it. Even if there is a queue when you go in, if you are in there for 5, 10 or 20 minutes, there will not be the same people outside waiting when you come out. So take your time to relax and keep telling yourself that no-one knows what you are doing in there, and it is no-one elses business! You have taken two first good steps on your road to recovery 1. You have found this site. Do read all the good information on the UKPT site and keep in touch via the discussion board. We are all sufferers here, so you are among friends. 2. You told someone about it and they didn't freak out! We all think people will think less of us if we tell them about our condition and the way it affects our lives. But they don't! Well done for telling your wife, and well done to her for being so supportive. (tell that from me) With a bit of work, hopefully you will soon be able to socialise and fly at will. Remember the UKPT is here to help you Colin

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