Posted by Pete L on 1/7/2009, 8:45 am, in reply to "Re: I have had enough of this."

Hi Emily Colin is right, your parents would be best to know about this as they wouldn't wish for their daughter to struggle through something on her own. You don't have to feel like you've let them down or anything, completely the opposite in fact. Just by approaching them, you add strength to a family relationship. What are parents for afterall..... other than money and taking out your frustrations!!! If, as Colin said, you find it difficult, just let your mum and dad read the 'how to tell' notes and then answer any questions they may have. In addition, it may be helpful for you to let your parents read your own post, and the replies to your post. You could even go one step further and let them spend some time reading several other posts!! Your parents may not fully understand the severity of Paruresis and the effects it has on peoples lives, however, they too can seek advice on this website so as to find out what can be done to help. Sometimes, you can explian until you are blue in the face but it still doesn't sink in. So, let them read it in their own way, as if reading a book. They may well connect to this quicker than you think. Then you will feel great relief (pardon the pun!) The most important thing to remember, and to keep saying to yourself, is that you are normal, and everyone who has this condition is normal. I was one of those who recently attended the workshop this weekend, I would have never believed, before I went, the change it would make. We all entered that workshop feeling anxious, nervous, pesimistic and many other negative thoughts......... this is perfectly normal, Emily. Then, here comes the good part, you WILL come out of that workshop on a massive high having accomplished........well, that part's up to you!! I am sure that, between you, this website and ALL OF US, we can help you. Let us know how it goes. Best wishes Pete

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