Posted by Judy on 30/5/2009, 11:07 am, in reply to "First time user!"

So glad you found out you're not alone - I can well remember the time I heard about it on a radio programme and was crying with relief to hear there were others in the same boat. I am 54 and feel there was a slight issue there from childhood but it became dramatically worse when my life changed suddenly, and I entered a new relationship. I know what you mean about planning your life round it. Somewhere new the loos are the first thing to check out - if only they all were soundproof with well fitting doors! Anyway, there is hope - I've got loads better since going on a ukpt workshop - meeting others really helped. Also for me checking through or writing texts on my phone in a public loo really helps - it just distracts me enough to shut off from what others are thinking about me.It's great you can tell your friends and they are supportive - I've only been able to tell my partner, not even my adult children. I have been a full time mum for years and think I never had the confidence to work outside the home because of worries about using the loo. Very best wishes for your progress - remember there's lotsof us out there. Be patient with yourself - you will get better.

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